Pets and Divorce

Even harder than saying goodbye to a person in divorce is saying goodbye to a shared pet – but you can’t split the dog in half and often it seems easier to just let the dog stay with one person. But how do you come to terms with that? With a person you can start to justify it – it wasn’t working, they were not right for you, they did things to upset you, you can learn to stop thinking about them because maybe they didn’t deserve it. But a pet. They were perhaps a beloved companion, you can’t just start to think of all the bad times, because there rarely are with animals and even the bad times turn out to be funny memories where pets are concerned.

You can get a new pet, you can focus on the things you can do now that you don’t have the responsibility, or you can cry over the lost friend…

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Getting along for the children’s sake, you win in the long run

It’s really hard to think about trying to get along with someone that you have just divorced, but if there are kids involved it’s really important to think about how your fighting could hurt them in the long run. Not just in the sense that seeing mommy and daddy fight is not a good experience, but also if you position yourself as enemies, kids do learn to use that to their advantage after a while, and that’s no fun for either parent. Too, things can spiral out of control, and eventually you want to be able to both be there for your kids wedding, your grandchildren, and other special family moments that neither of you will want to miss. And being civil and in control is one way to drive a person crazy after a split, usually both party secretly hopes that they can’t live without them and that they were the key to that person’s survival. Divorce is tough on everybody, but it’s really hardest on the kids so it’s important not to make it harder.

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